if you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump out.
if you put a frog in warm water and gradually turn up the heat until the water is boiling, the frog will remain there until it dies.
and that is an abusive relationship.
you should ALWAYS use a condom unless it’s been explicitly discussed and you have decided otherwise as a couple! always!!!!!!!!!!
even if you’re lesbians???????
especially if you’re lesbians! if both of you get pregnant that’s twice as bad